I’ve heard this so many times that it’s time we look at it from a positive lens:
“Dating in L.A. is hard.”
Truth is, dating in general is difficult. It’s not just the city of Los Angeles, but almost any other city you visit. And the only constant in any dating scenario is…you guessed it…YOU!
I’ve also heard it said often that people in Los Angeles are superficial and several other negative things.
Totally not true.
What it comes down to is that when you finally are on a date, you have to let go of all the negative ideas you have about people and dating. You have to get down to the stuff that really matters, which is being GENUINE and HAPPY.
When you carry yourself with a healthy outlook on meeting people, you’ll find it easier to get through your dates. Why? Because you essentially need to surrender all stereotypes or hurtful beliefs about the people around you. If you constantly hear everything through a filter that only misinterprets what is said to you, you’re basically hurting your chances at improving on your dating techniques and possibly meeting someone who is great for you.
A friend who went on a first date had this to say about the guy she met:
I asked him why guys from other states are so negative about dating in L.A. He said that almost all the girls he’s met are out looking for money and they are superficial. I asked, “Where are you meeting these women?” His answer wasn’t clear, but it sounded to me like he needed to open his mind up to the possibility of meeting cool girls outside of his current social circle. He then went on to talk about a horrible incident with a woman he dated who constantly asked him for money. Let’s just say that our first date was also our last.”
If your conversation is made up of complaints against the opposite sex, you’re going to leave a bad impression and you’ll be hurting your own chances at either making a great new friend or pursuing what could turn out to be a really great relationship.
And no matter what city you’re in, if you’re finding that it’s difficult to date, stop and re-evaluate your strategy and your attitude. Remember, your mindset will totally affect who and what you attract. And if it helps, here are just a few tips to help you structure your dates so that you’re comfortable using a rather simple First Date Formula. You can find the rest of the tips at First Date Do’s and Don’ts:
- Make a good impression by showing up on time. Don’t make your date wait!
- Make the date comfortable with light conversation. Show your interest in the other person’s life and get to know a few basics about him or her.
- Meet up at a place where you have the option of dinner, drinks, and some music that isn’t so loud you can’t hear the other person. After all, aren’t you meeting to get to know each other better?